When Your Lover Dies: Dealing with Grief After a Spouse's Death

Your lover has been diagnosed with a terminal disease. Even if you want it to, your life will not end at this moment. How do you carry on? When your mate is gone, how do you cope with decisions you used to share as a team? How and when do you deal with dating again? Where do you find the strength to start anew?Learn how to:Accept the inevitability of deathDiscuss issues you don't want to ponder when you're grieving, including resuscitation, power of attorney, burial versus cremation, type of memorial service, donation of body parts, disposal of personal property, and remarriageSupport your loved one through diagnosis, treatment and the dying processLive together as normally as you can for as long as you canEncourage your lover to let go when the time is rightGive yourself permission to mourn-for as long as you chooseCry, howl and be angry if that's what it takesTreasure expressions of sympathy, even those that are misguidedDelay major decisions until you're ready to face themProtect yourself in survival modeSlowly start to live again