It's Never About What It's About: What We Learned About Living While Waiting to Die

Why doesn't the person I'm dating make me happy? Why can't I get my body to look the way I want it? Why does my job seem so unimportant? Why do I dwell on what I don't have, rather than my accomplishments? Why is it that nothing ends up being the way I think it should be? These were the kinds of questions the authors were asking until both were diagnosed with HIV infection and they began a speeded up search for answers that made sense. With time running out, they turned inward for answers, and by asking the right questions, they discovered what they were looking for. At a time when they might have been more traumatized, more depressed, and less satisfied with their lives, they discovered a paradox: They were living better than ever with less stress, less emotional trauma, more tranquility, more friends, an abundance of material things, and-- most important--a growing understanding of who they were. Determined not to forget what they learned, they began to write things down, and this book is the result. Sometimes funny, sometimes poignant, the authors discuss the simple insights and practical skills they developed for connecting the frustrating "outer world" we confront daily with the transformative "inner world" of heart, mind, and soul where we live our