Happiness It's Your Choice : The Skill Development Theory for Successful Change [signed]

Applegate teaches that our actions and feelings are driven by our thoughts, beliefs and perceptions. When our thinking changes, so does our actions and feelings - it's kind of like a computer really. How many times have you thought that the boss was being a jerk? Your perception is that he is being a jerk, so your actions may to be cuss him under your breath or flame him with a co-worker - you feel resentment, hurt, anger. Then, what if you found out that his monther just died last night? Now you have a different perception and as a result, feel differently. When our actions don't match our thinking, our feelings are in tumoil. My belief is that should always tell the truth, so when I lie, I feel guilty. Our thoughts, beliefs and perceptions are shaped by many things such as experiences, childhood teaching, etc. But this just a tiny tip of the iceberg that Skill development offers.